I never understood people, why do they tell us what to do? Why would they think everyone around them needs certain instructions on how to continue their life, on how to live their life? Why don’t people get that we need to make our own decisions?
Mostly these people are who hold authority in our lives. These can be parents, older friends, someone we look up to, godfathers, godmothers, etc. But what they don’t get is that to learn something in life, we have to make our own mistakes. Learn from them. Live with the consequences of our bad decisions.
How do people expect us to grow in life if we don’t know where we can go wrong? How can we ever make the correct decisions without making the bad ones first? But let’s see how this controlling behaviour can affect our lives.
What happens in our minds?
When we are told what we should do, our brains do this thing where we like to go in the opposite direction of what was told to us. We instil this rebellious behaviour in our actions, where we go against these authoritative figures in our lives just for the heck of it.
This usually happens more often when we are in our teenage years and we are still developing the maturity required to make more diplomatic decisions in life.
As we grow older, we understand that not everything requires rebellion. Sometimes there is a solution you come to when there is nothing else left to do.
Coming to a mid-point where both parties are in agreement with the decision. This part becomes very important in the future when we don’t have certain options to rebel against authority.
Learning the diplomatic way of dealing with situations can be extremely helpful and will lead to lesser revolts caused by your mind on people who are just trying to help you out of a stitch.
What happens after the rebellion?
With the mindset of rebellion in our minds, we oppose everything that comes at us in the form of orders from people.
Then comes the phase of the revolution. What the people don’t understand is that those making decisions for us are also tampering with our capabilities of decision making.
If we get used to others making decisions for us or them telling us what to do in life. We tend to rely on them for further instructions. And this is when we forget to do things for ourselves. We end up making decisions for them and not for us.
Free will
People forget that we have to exercise our free will in life. Free will to make decisions. Free will to go anywhere we want. Free will to do whatever we want to. Our ability to make decisions on our own accord is what differs us from others.
It is what makes us unique. Every person can make decisions according to themselves and not follow any rules necessary. And that is the beauty of free will.
How can we hand off the control of our lives onto someone else? How can we let others make decisions for us when we know that our free will is our own?
To sum up, this topic of why people tell us to do certain things and to avoid certain mistakes is very commonly found in almost everyone’s daily life.
We all have someone or the other ready to make decisions for us which to them might seem like they are protecting us but it turns into them just controlling us and tampering with our power to make decisions for ourselves.
Many times this leads to rebellious acts presented against a specific authority. The most common example is children still in the learning age going against their parents.
But the authority has to let us make our own mistakes, learn from them and in turn help us grow on our own volition rather than being blind to the mistakes and horrors of the world and being ignorant to how we can go wrong.
Written By - Mohammad Arbaz Jalees
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