8 Ways to Have a Mature Relationship

 

Before we begin I want to state clearly that I am no expert in this particular regime whatsoever. I guess no one can truly be the best in this area even if one tries their hardest. Relationships throw us the most unpredictable curve balls in our lives. We neither know if to catch it nor do we know whether we should let it go if you know what I mean. 

If I have understood anything then I can say that after being in a relationship with a person you truly become a person of yourself as well. There are many many things that a relationship teaches us, the good and also the bad. We grow as a person when we get to stay with another person in our lives. 

Many struggles at the beginning of the relationship, many in the middle of the relationship, and many at the very last straw of the relationship. If we have one control button in our lives then it is the relationship button. We have the power and authority to choose to be in any kind of relationship we want to be in but at the same time, we are desperate, vulnerable, and insecure about our decisions.

It takes two people to coordinate, two people to collide and two people to join their completely different worlds together and they are expected to be with each other normally without any problems. I am here to tell you that it is a far-fetched ideology. If there is a lot of equipment in the kitchen then they’re bound to make some noise. And without the noise, it's not even normal. 

So without further ado let’s get started with the ways one can have a mature relationship. 

Mentality Matching 

The most important thing is mentality matching. Few people in this world will truly understand you as a person, getting to have the same mentality as your partner is not possible. It will always be 70-30 and 60-40. 

But when there is no similarity between you and your partner that could create an issue. But in some cases, people say opposites do attract and make a great couple so I guess it’s about understanding each other’s perspectives and values. And adjusting to it accordingly. 

Both Partners are Equal 

See when you’re in a relationship then it’s not about being a boy or being a girl. Just because you’re a girl does not mean that your boyfriend can’t get angry at you or scream at you when you’re wrong. Your boyfriend has feelings that deserve your equal respect. You just can’t react brutally to your boyfriend just because he is your boyfriend and he will listen to you. 

One needs to get off their high horses and need to be practical. Being a girl you also have the right to make your boyfriend feel special. It’s just not the boys' job to do so. And it goes the other way round too. You must balance your equation to have a stable relationship.

Trusting Your Partner 

On trust, many foundations are built. And trust is a key factor in all relationships. It is the most important thing in a relationship. Don’t let your insecurities come to the surface. And breaking your partner's trust also can cause great harm. 

You’ll be amazed by the fact that many relationship problems trace back to trust issues. Issues are harder to resolve when there is no trust left in a relationship. 

Cooperating 

When you’re in a relationship you have to read each other’s moods and situations you have to cooperate even if your partner is giving you tantrums for no reason. Everyone has a different nature and personality. 

One might have anger issues, one must be panicking, and one must be very sensitive to other people's words. So what you can do first is to try keeping calm. Then try logical reasoning with them and when you see it’s like speaking to a wall let them go. They’re in a bad mood and will not understand a word you say. 

This is a relationship, there will be many battles that you have to lose and so don’t have to care much about it. However one must understand the effort going into the process of understanding and cooperating with each l be many things you will despise about them yet you know you love them and can’t let them go. 

No Involvement of Any Third Person 

Commonly, relationships often tend to create a lot of trouble. We can certainly go to our friends for advice but don't let them represent you and don't let them fight your battles in your relationship.

Trust me it makes this the worst. Both parties will suffer and you will suffer the most. A lot of bad blood will be spilled. Misunderstandings and bad impressions will happen which is just not worth it. 

Seeing a Future Together 

Yes I agree on th, at casual dating is a thing now. It's about enjoying the moment and not taking any pressure but these kinds of relationships don't last long. You need to be in a relationship where there is a proper commitment. With whom you see yourselves in the future. 

As you get older the more you feel like settling down with someone. Having the desire to get married and have kids does not necessarily have to be tagged as stereotypical but it's a bit practical. 

But kudos to those who don’t agree and wish to live their life differently, as long as it works. 

Respect Each Other 

Everyone looks forward to living a life of respect and dignity. That’s why being in a relationship where you will get respect from your partner is very important. One needs to respect their partner for who she or he is. 

Respect could come in terms of their jobs, families, perspectives, and everything. If one does not give them that then they could have a setback they could think twice about being with you and they could have a major health issue. 

Motivate Each Other 

A support system is very important to lead a life and having a relationship helps us to achieve that. When our partner motivates us into doing something, being somethin,g or working, towards something then we grow asa  person.

You develop more efficient skills in your work and become the best versions of self in life. The key to success is ensured when you’re with a highly motivating person who motivates you instead of putting you down. 

I hope that these tips help you to have the relationship which you are looking for. Remember a bond is not created in an instant but the effort makes the bond grow stronger over time. 

Written by - Rumela Gupta 

Edited by - Kritika Sharma