Book: 8 Rules Of Love
Author: Ajay Shetty
About The Author
Author Jay Shetty aims to elevate us from the negativity, anxiety, and hopelessness of today’s world. Born in north London in 1987, Jay and his sister were raised in a middle-class Indian family.
Until the age of 14, Jay did well in school, stayed out of trouble and tried his best to live up to his parents’ high expectations. But he was a shy, introverted young boy who was bullied for being overweight and a little nerdy. When he started secondary school, things changed.
About The Book
Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.
Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Jay Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before.
He shares insights on how to win or lose together, how to define love, and why you don’t break in a break-up. Inspired by Vedic wisdom and modern science, he tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to breaking up and starting over.
And he shows us how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners. By living Jay Shetty’s eight rules, we can all love ourselves, our partner, and the world better than we ever thought possible.
Review
3 Keywords that I have learnt from the book:
1. Give Yourself Time Alone
He talks about how being alone, and having confidence can not only be better for you but also your future partner. In research it is said that the longer people are single in life, the happier they become.
But it doesn’t mean that you should be single forever, there are unique ways in which you will be happy with your partner. The author says that if you are happy single then you will be happy in a relationship.
Why? Because you will always find a way to cheer up your mate the way you cheer yourself up. Having a broken relationship and not fixing it will result in a broken marriage.
But having a broken relationship and finding ways to work on it will lead to a marriage of love, understanding, friendship and much more than pleasures.
2. Personality May Start A Relationship But, Character Makes It Last
Falling for someone, at first sight, is fine, but very few know it is not love but attraction. You have fallen for that person's personality and not character. What matters in a relationship is a character, because you have to stay with it for your lifetime.
Do you remember having a crush in your school days? The sparks you got when your crush was walking in front of you. The race in a heartbeat, the small nervous breakdown, the mini panic attack you got just by seeing your crush. Personality starts a relationship, characters protect it.
3. Understanding, Patience And Kindness Play An Important Role
Do you think your relationship can work just because you are good in bed or you are a sweet talker? No, it will never work. Getting good pleasures from your partner is fine and it is an important part of a relationship but, it is just for some time.
If you want your partner to stay then the above three keys are very important. Having understanding will help you to get to know your partner better and compromise, it is not always about your happiness but your partners too.
Patience will help you to be calm and not create big issues or small arguments. Kindness will help you to give love and get it back.
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